Q: So my boyfriend he's from Scotland, he's white And I am American, I am black. And whenever we get into a fight he calls me the n word. He was born in Scotland but was raised here and recently moved back to Scotland. I told my friend about it and she thinks I need to leave him. I know he's not racist but it's just really hurtful and I love him sooo much, it just hurts a lot whenever he says that. I told but he says it's just a joke and not to take it seriously because he loves me and blah blah.